Patterns, power and possibilities
When I’m coaching, I’m always listening out for patterns and sequences:
Patterns of words, patterns of behaviour.
Patterns that suggest themes and habits.
Patterns as clues.
“To understand is to perceive patterns”
We all slip into habits and behaviours that become entrenched, sometimes consciously, often not.
What start out as ways to keep us safe, become a part of who we are and how we show up in the world. They no longer serve their original function and start to hold us back.
How coaching helps
By listening, reflecting your words back to you and asking powerful questions, I can help you become aware of the patterns of behaviour that are holding you back.
The blind spots. The knee-jerk reactions.
They might show up as:
A need to be right or constantly validated
People-pleasing
Over-thinking or decision paralysis
Denial, avoidance or feelings of helplessness
Anger or resentment
Defensiveness
Self-blame or imposterism.
These patterns are common, particularly in leaders: the burden of responsibility plus a lack of honest feedback makes growth and change a particular challenge at C-Suite level. (It’s a key reason so many successful leaders have worked with coaches for years.)
What we’ll do together
Once you identify a pattern, you have the power to update or discard it.
We start by mapping, isolating the triggers and the payoffs.
We go back to you: your values, your purpose; your identity.
We look at the root causes: your inherited, unconscious ‘rules’, your limiting beliefs.
We find ways to interrupt and break unhelpful patterns. And we find alternatives - new patterns, habits and skills that serve you better and reflect who you truly are.
To give you the power, and to open up new possibilities.
“Creativity involves breaking out of established patterns in order to look at things in a different way”
